Do we really care about Pastor Ted Haggard and his sexual exploits? Well, I guess when confronted hypocrisy, we have the opportunity to a have a laugh (in some cases) or simply scratch our heads in disbelief.
Pastor Ted has been busy leading a double life. This is nothing new when it comes to married men (with children) who like a man on the side. In Ted’s case, he was not only busy – getting bizy with other men – he was also covering up his tracks with a settlement agreement and payoffs for silence. I don’t have a problem with married men having an identity crisis, however, I do have a problem with married men who claim a devotion to God and go down on their knees for reasons other than simply praying.
What’s the little woman think about all of this? Who knows. She’s probably not surprised that her husband was into men and more than likely had a gut feeling that Ted was cuddling up with boys on the side.
Can we feel sorry for the men who have come forward and have claimed that Pastor Ted led them down the road to drugs, alcohol and depression? I think not. It does not appear that Ted was flirting with young boys and was smart enough to find consenting adults in which have his bit of fun. Those who have come forward, in an attempt to nail Ted to the cross, may have had some problems with their own sexuality and it certainly does not sound like Ted was tying people up and/or drugging them into submission. No, it sounds like Ted found willing men who saved up their stories for a rainy day.
No doubt, many may find it comical that Pastor Ted had the ear of George Bush and this is where the duality gets a bit interesting. The old administration had problems with gay marriage and even Bill Frist chimed in on defining (and supporting his buddy George) in keeping marriage defined as between a man and a woman. However, George was rubbing elbows (as was Frist) with Gay Republicans who thought they had found a sympathetic ear – they were wrong. The double cross on the gay marriage issue was brewing just before George’s second term was to be set in stone.
Ted’s three year affair with a male escort seems harmless enough. In fact, the male escort looks like he was worth every penny, however, if it had been a woman would there be such a big deal being made out of Ted’s past transgressions?
When Jimmy Swaggart had his affair, he whined, moaned and cried on television - seeking redemption. However, if Jimmy had been buggering another man, the backlash from his flock would have had dire consequences for the future of his ministry. Another example of “when things can go very wrong” is Jim Bakker. 
Many may remember Jim bilking followers out of millions. While that was the BIG story, the back story was Jim’s hi-jinks in the steam room with other men (at least one we know of). Jim was having his own fun on the side and served his time. However, are we beginning to see a trend with these people of God? Seems to me that hypocrisy reigns supreme, when it comes to what the good book says you can and can not do and, what these men of God are doing behind closed steam room doors.
Pastor Ted claims he’s getting help. What type of help he could possibly be getting to help him overcome his sexual proclivities - is a mystery to me. Sorry, but you’re either gay, straight or bi-sexual. I think Ted falls into the BI category (if anything) as it’s his safest bet in keeping what dignity he has left – with both his flock and his family. On the other hand, he could be a gay closeted fellow (who’s no longer closeted) and was outed for he is.
Unfortunately, the gay world can be cruel and even crueler to those who do men on the side, lead a double life and are then outed by other gay men who hate hypocrisy and/or the double-standard.
The double-standard between gay men (and closeted gay men) comes to the surface when ”out” gay men, prey upon closeted gay men and screw them in more ways than just one. Add a touch of celebrity (to a closeted gay men) and you have a recipe for disaster. I don’t applaud the gay men who have come forward to tell their sorted tales about Pastor Ted. In fact, they’re deplorable (especially the one who took money for sex). As for the male escort, he was paid for his services and should have kept his mouth shut, as he was paid. The notion of gay men coming forward and offering to take lie detector tests, to prove they had sex with Pastor Ted, is about as bad as it gets in the gay world.
Pastor Ted probably asked for the taste of hell he’s currently living. He spoke out against gay marriage, picked uncaring bed fellows, paid for sex (and silence), betrayed his wife, family and his followers. Now, I ask anyone, if that’s not hell, I don’t know what is.
As the song says… Where do I begin?
“the gay world can be cruel”… When you have someone that spouts ‘No Rights for Gays’ and gives a bj to someone they don’t deserve Mercy! Such as that ass.. Ted.
I don’t believe in “Outing” unless it’s people like Ted and Mr. ‘Wide Stance’.
If they are closeted and living a double life, they have to handle the consequences of their behavior. They aren’t honest to their partners of both sexes. An affair is an affair, whether it’s a straight or gay affair. If a married man has an affair with a woman, it’s full of lies and deceit.
Gay men who out closeted Gay men are heros and should receive rewards on a per outing basis. If the millions of Gay men in the closet came out, there would be no denying Gay men equal rights as there would be too many of us to be denied.
It amazes me that you can even write a blog about things when you obviously did not watch the interviews on TV..it didn’t even air till the 29th. Writing in advance only hearing what the rating hungry news agencies are airing only gave you one side of the story. Bottom Line, Sin is Sin, big or little. yes his was Big in the eyes of man but it is all the same to God.. steal a pen from work … sin, have sex outside of marriage … sin, kill a baby by abortion … sin